1. Understand that there is no objective reality only a subjective reality
In other words, we see the world through our own set of filters and these filters are colored by our own personal history and by our emotional heritage. For example, our childhood and adult experiences, our influences, the books we read and the people we associate with all come together to create the lens through which we see the world. The job of every human is to regularly reflect on the nature of the filters through which we see the world and to ensure that we are looking at the truth. If our vision is skewed and inaccurate, we need to set about doing the inner work to clean up our lenses and restore our true perspective.
2. Stop playing the victim
Many of us fall into the role of victim and never get out because it becomes a part of our identity. We all know people who love to point the finger at others and say "They did it to me" or "I’m in these circumstances because of my boss, or my mate or the economy". The fact of the matter is, every one of us has been coded to control our own destinies. Each and every one of us has the power to rise above our current circumstances and bring the dreams of our imagination into our current reality. One needs only to look to the lives of leaders like Mahatma Gandhi, Nelson Mandela, Thomas Edison, Oprah Winfrey and Mother Teresa to see concrete examples.
3. Regularly Detect, Inspect and Correct
Self-examination requires a three-part process: First, one must detect how they are doing in their lives. This involves getting a sense of your strengths as well as your weaknesses, and determining what you are doing right as well as what you are doing wrong. The second part of the process is to inspect the evidence you come up with. Analyze it and let it percolate within your consciousness. Finally, we must reach deep within ourselves and find the courage to correct our limiting behaviors. Far too many of us play small with our lives and then only in our twilight years do we wake up and recognize what we could have been. Each and every one of us has a remarkable potential to add value to the world and improve ourselves in the process. Many of us have given up on the life we imagined we could have lived when we were younger. But the time to change is now. And if not now, when?
4. Understand that the negative traits you see in others are often a reflection of our deepest selves.
Here is a point that absolutely fascinates me: If you were a perfectly evolved and actualized human being who felt nothing but love for everyone else, it would be impossible for you to see anything other than the perfection of all those around you. It is one of the universal truths of self mastery that the more you come to know and then respect yourself, the more you can see the innocence and light in all those people around you who you previously believed to be mean or petty or angry. The fact that you see negative qualities in them is often a reflection of the negative qualities which need to be repaired within yourself. This is not an easy concept to take in at first glance but if you truly understand it, you will be well on your way to creating your best life.