10 ways to break it to them gently

ImageDiplomacy tips that keep customers
When corporations ask me to train their employees in order to enhance customer retention, I find one skill-set that is frequently weak—how to diplomatically give customers bad news.  Unfortunately, the task of giving bad news goes with almost every job.  You may have to inform your customers of a price increase, of a product being out of stock, or that their children aren’t allowed to use your coat rack for rappelling practice.

Employees facing these scenarios worry that customers might become defensive, offended, or, worst of all, simply take their business elsewhere.  Employees thus get stressed, absenteeism and turnover increases, and customer retention plummets.  In other words, everyone loses.  So, in our training programs we equip potential “bearers of bad news”  with valuable tools to help make the process less painful for everyone.  Here’s a sampling:

1.  Warn in advance
When you realize that you may not be able to give the customer what he is expecting, give him some advance notice.  Example: An insurance underwriter or broker calls his customer.  “George, I’ve been looking at your application and it’s not looking very promising in terms of coverage.  I’m wondering if I might have missed something . . . ”

You can even turn advance warning into a selling opportunity.  “Martin, you’re an important customer so I thought I’d better inform you about this right away.  Our energy costs have almost doubled over the past year so we’re forced to increase our prices by 10% effective July 1st.  As you order items regularly, I thought I’d better check with you to see if it would make sense to reorder now in order to save money and prevent any unpleasant last-minute surprises.”

2.  Accept responsibility
While serving as President of our professional speaking association, I received a bad news call from one of our event organizers: “Jeff, I wanted to talk to you about a situation that has just come to my attention.  I want you to know that I accept full responsibility for the foul-up.  It was a stupid mistake that I shouldn’t have made and I will do everything that needs to be done to fix the error.  What happened was . . . “  Since he was already berating himself, my response could only be magnanimous.  Accepting full responsibility, while recognizing the consequences of the error, shows that you’re prepared to “take your lumps”  like a grown-up.  People respect that.

3.  Tone it down

Literally.  Lower the tone of your voice and your rate of speaking. When people get excited or emotional about ideas, they tend to raise their voice pitch and pace.  When you’re giving bad news you want to give the impression that you are thinking clearly, logically and reasonably—not emotionally, and certainly not irrationally.  You can do this easily by slowing down the rate you’re speaking and lowering the pitch slightly.  That way, you come across as the calm, quiet voice of reason.

4.  Begin with the good news
When you have both good news and bad, start with the good.  When people hear bad news they have an internal stress reaction that causes them to tune out other information.  So, to ensure that the customer fully comprehends and appreciates the entire message, make sure you give the good news first.

5.  Express empathy
Empathy helps soften the blow.  A claims adjustor attending my seminar explained that she used to have difficulty telling clients whose vehicles had been stolen and damaged, that they still had to pay the deductible, even though they weren’t to blame.  Ironically, she’s been much better at dealing with these customers since her aunt had a similar experience with her vehicle.  Now that she shares this personal experience, her empathy shows. Sometimes misery does love company.

6.  Avoid “trigger”  words
Two words that act as hot buttons—”It’s policy.”  A better approach is to explain why a policy exists.  Compare the word choices of two driving examiners who are dealing with a beginner driver who rolls through a stop sign.  First examiner: “You’ve rolled through a stop sign and our policy is to fail anyone who doesn’t come to a complete stop.”  Second examiner: “The fact that you have rolled through a stop sign is a safety concern that we just can’t overlook.  So you didn’t qualify this time.”  Same information, but the second examiner’s word choices made her sound more reasonable.

7.  Express negatives as positives
Rather than saying, “Your order won’t be here until Tuesday,”  try “Your order will be here as soon as Tuesday.”  Same information, but wording it positively enhances customer perception.

8.  Help them find an alternative
If you’re out-of-stock when the customer’s rushed, recommend your competitor.  They’ll go there anyway.  When you help them find another supplier, the customer associates your service with solving their problem.  So, there’s a chance that they may return.  In other words, you have nothing to lose and something to gain when you recommend a competitor.  Besides, it’s the decent thing to do.

9.  Remind them of the bigger picture
Sometimes customers don’t realize that the “bad news” is in their own best interest.  In the example of children swinging on the coat rack, you might say to their parent, “You seem like a nice person and I’m sure you wouldn’t want your children to get injured.  Perhaps we can give them some paper and felt pens so they can draw while they wait.”

10.  Follow up
With some incidents, a well-timed phone call after the bad news goes a long way in proving to the customer that you’ve gone the extra mile.  “I just wanted to check with you to see how things are going with that replacement item we provided . . . “  Such follow-up raises the perceived value of your service without spending more money.
© This article is based on the critically acclaimed book Becoming a Service Icon in 90 Minutes a Month, by customer service strategist and professional speaker Jeff Mowatt. To obtain your own copy of his book or to inquire about engaging Jeff for your team, visit www.jeffmowatt.com or call 1.800.JMowatt (566.9288).